If you are asking yourself, 'Will I ever find my soul mate?' maybe it is time you started looking online. The chances of finding your soul mate on in the internet are probably a lot better than you think. After all, pretty much everyone goes online these days and you can find people there that you would never meet in the street. If you are in a job where you do not meet many people that you could date, or if you live way out in the country, the internet will introduce you to a whole new world.
Going online is also something you can do very quickly in the middle of a busy life. You can write a few emails on your lunch break or in an internet cafe. You do not have to be home waiting for the phone to ring. You just log in to your email account whenever you can, and see what - or who - is waiting there for you.
Of course, you have to be persistent. You may have to exchange email with a few frogs before you hook up with your prince. But do not write people off too soon. Remember, in the story, the frog changed into a prince.
Your soul mate probably will not be the person you think is drop dead gorgeous from his photo. You may feel an instant attraction or you may not. Chemistry is not there in the same way when we look at a photo as when we meet a person, so try not to decide until you meet him.
On the other hand, it is an advantage that online dating sites allow us to find out a lot about a person before we meet him. You will know his age, job, whether he has children and his likes and dislikes. But instead of using that information to decide whether he is your soul mate, use it to get to know him better. Ask him about his job, show an interest in his kids, find things that you have in common.
One of the main ways that people connect, make friends, build relationships and feel safe with another person, is by finding links between them. This can be anything from enjoying the same movie or wearing the same color shirt to discovering that your aunt once worked in the building where his brother's business is based. We love to feel that it is a small world, it makes us feel secure. So use your emails to build these links, or give him enough information that he can see the links for himself.
Another great thing about looking for Mr Right online is that both of you probably do not feel so shy. Many people have trouble talking to a stranger but writing a few lines about yourself is easy for most of us. If you do not know what to say in your emails, look to see if he has asked you any questions. Answer them briefly, then ask him a few questions. It is best if the questions that you ask follow on from what you were just telling, so that you do not seem to be interrogating him.
Remind yourself every day, 'I will find my soul mate online!' and very soon your dreams could be coming true.
